Thursday 18 April 2013

"The Undateables."

This Channel 4 programmes is the most cutest thing I have ever seen! 

The participants seem so sweet and all they want is companionship and love. If you haven't seen it yet, people with disabilities who find it hard to find love, they join up to these dating agencies specialised for them to find them a friend or a potential partner.

However, I don't think they should be limited to others who can't date either or with disabilities, even though they would have similarities in dating principles. 

I've dated a guy who was mildly autistic and I treated him like anyone else and he liked how I didn't treat him any differently. It was a shame others treated him in a negative light when he was at school. It was effort sometimes. His coping strategies made him act as if the condition he had didn't exist but there were little things that showed he was, such as communication. 
Whenever we watched TV and I tried to have a conversation with him, he would be in his own little world and ignore me. Not on purpose of course but it was difficult. It was also hard explaining my perspective to him if I found something wrong. Hmm, perhaps it's a man thing. Not sure. 

My first love and my second boyfriend were quite similar actually. They both have an eidetic memory. Adam* in particular - whenever we went out for the day and we see cars, he would observe a cars number plate for a second and remember it straight away and know what brand car it was. It was very impressive. I don't know whether that's a trait of autism, but he was also very clever. It does make me wonder sometimes. 

Steven* was quite particular too. Usually when people have baked and have done for a long time, they would roughly know how many grams or cups is what and just bung it in. That's what I do anyway. I don't measure things anymore. Guessing is so much more fun. 
However, with my previous boyfriend, he was asked to make a birthday cake for a family friend of mine and we thought great - a nice, homemade cake. But when it came to using written recipes, he couldn't skip a step or roughly judge how much to use, he measure everything out accordingly and followed the steps very carefully. It was painful and long to watch. So many utensils and bowls were needed for this experiment. It didn't benefit my mother - It was more washing to do. It took nearly 2-3 days to finish. It was a beautiful cake in the end though but it took longer than we anticipated, but we waited patiently.

Another aspect I didn't approve of was the programmes name. It's degrading and it denotes such a negative image. It's bad enough that finding love is a struggle, but the name makes them undesirable. 

On the other hand, it gives them great publicity and it creates unity with the nation because they just make you want to go, "Aww." 

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