I grew up with a Chinese background and like any other Asian, we have eaten some weird stuff. Some taste good. Others..NOPE! But I'm a BBC (British Born Chinese), so growing up as a Chinese person in a Western culture - it makes people question what you eat.
I have been at university for three years now. Finished. And during my time, I have encountered many people looking displeased over my meal. It wouldn't be anything strange either - sometimes a bowl of ramen noodles.
But so many have judged and said unnecessary comments before I had even started eating my food. BITCH DON'T DISTURB MY ME TIME. All I wanted to do was eat in peace and enjoy my foods. Why was it so hard to ask? Why did people have to open their mouths and think they were being useful by pointing out something moot?
People will judge food on its look and smell, but will never try it. How do they know it's not goddamn tasty?
"Ermaagherd, like, ew. I knoooow it's nasty. It looks like a bag of worms."
Well then. More for me.
It's their loss. If they're like this over food, imagine someone else's culture. Are they not going to accept that too? Heck, food is culture.
They can't keep being close-minded, otherwise they won't experience anything new. OR ANYTHING AT ALL.
They can't go to a new country and start insulting their food and culture. They'll get more than they bargained in their "chicken burger".
Some need to have respect for other people and think before they speak.
Stop ruining my meal. It's my food, not yours.
I'm 5ft 3". My waist is 25". I weigh roughly about 8 stone - but I eat so much!
Family, friends and strangers ask/say me:
How are you so skinny?
Where does it all go?
You don't even do any exercise, how are you that shape?
Look how small your jeans are!
I wish I was as skinny as you.
When will you get fat?
IS THAT FOOD ALL FOR YOU?!
And my answer is I don't know. I often feel quite uncomfortable when placed in that position because all eyes are on me and I can feel their question burning through.
I guess high metabolism? I think I take after my father. Well, that's what my mother said to me anyway.
I can't really say I'm a growing girl either because I stopped growing at 16. I'm a shortie.
When I'm in that situation, it makes me feel guilty for being this size so I sometimes try and make the other person feel better by saying I'll get fat one day.
I need to respond better. I can't say it's my metabolism to them otherwise I will get the evils - even though that's the truth.
Also, I'm not really fond of the word "skinny" - I feel it has a bad connotation attached to it now because it's used in a negative light, like in the examples above.
I just want to eat in peace without being questioned as to where it goes.
Um, the toilet?
I express myself through blogging. Not so much vlogging - I can hardly speak properly so no luck there.
Some find my blogs interesting. Some don't like what I say. Some have asked me to delete blog posts. I say NOPE!
Never let anyone dictate what you write. Unless you've written something really offensive then yeah, majority vote.
I normally write about my life. It's what I know well so why not write about it.
It's going to be the cliche, "If you don't like it, don't read it." But it's true though. If you don't like it, goooo awaaaaay.
When I was younger, if someone insulted me or was being very negative towards me - I didn't know how to deal with it.
No one tells you how to handle bad things that come your way. I think I used to bottle it up and not talk to anyone about it.
The way I handle it now in through blogging. It can be so much to process when you get annoyed or angry or someone is being just plain shitty. I like writing things down. It gives me a clearer picture of everything because it's right there in front of me.
When it's in your head, it's all over the place. One thing you think about would clash with another and then for some reason remember what they said 7 years ago which wouldn't have anything to do with it. Basically, you become emotional.
I do let out a cry now and again. Actually, ever since being placed on the Pill - I have become such an emotional wreck. I can cry over someone getting me the wrong McMuffin meal. It's that simple.
I guess this is my very public diary. Many would say to ignore it completely. I do, do that but I must let it out first, otherwise it'll be built up inside me all the time. It's a nice time to reflect as well.
PS You ever upset me, you're going on here.
When I think of a 'teenager', I think of my sister. She's the typical stereotype: stroppy, anti-social in family gatherings, selfie obsessed, "whatever" - the list can go on.
I was definitely this kind of teen.
Being a teenager - you think your life is over. FOREVER! I HATE YOU! Yeah, that era.
You are landed with so many expectations - be popular, get good grades, look amazing, have loads of friends, have every social networking platform on game as well as your eyebrows. It's a wonder how they ever sleep at night.
Seriously though, everything needs to be spot on.
My sister is going through the phase of being "mean" and trying to look older. Jail bait. I really hated that phase because I look back now and realise how stupid I looked.
It feels like bitchy/mean girls run the world from the ages of 12-16. After that, you realise they ain't shit. You are. They don't run your life. You do. Sure they can call you ugly or fat or whatever they think is "cool", they're nasty at the end of the day.
With trying to look older, who are you trying to impress? When I was younger, I was trying to impress guys. My parents said that I was "mature", but no one has fun being mature. I'm the opposite now. It's hilarious seeing my sister trying to act 18 when in reality, she's only just come out of the womb.
It also seems like as a teen that looks are E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.
If you are a teenager, then please - stay looking young as long as possible. Time flies and you'll look back realising how much time you wasted trying to be "cool" or putting menial things at the top of your list.
Another tip I will give is listen to your parents. GOD I KNOW! SUCH A CHORE! But your parents were teens once (duh!) and they will want to give you as much wisdom as possible. They may shout at you but they do it out of love (and also because you're being a right fucking pain in the bum).
This can be one of the greatest times of your life but can also be the worst. You'll be okay though if you have the right people around.
Good luck!
